I just finished Nick Tasler's
The Impulse Factor, which describes the different ways we approach risk. Tasler says there are two basic approaches to risk: risk management and potential seeking. Risk managers minimize downside risk and accept lower upside potential in return for security. Potential seekers focus on maximizing upside potential, even if it means giving up smaller but surer gains or risking greater failures and losses. Now, we all act impulsively from time to time, and we all have moments when the potential downside risks of a situation dominate our decision making. But generally speaking, people will fit one of the two models and even if they don't see it, their friends will be able to say pretty easily whether you're looking at an impulsive person - a potential seeker - or a risk manager.
Tasler says that it's not better or worse to be a potential seeker or a risk manager, but that you need to know your style and adjust your decision making models to enhance that model's advantages while minimizing its disadvantages. One thing that struck me about
The Impulse Factor was the applicability of the advice for potential seekers when applied to people learning languages on their own:
When you start to learn a language on your own, you're probably in the potential seeking mode: You're thinking about the day when you can strike up conversations with complete strangers, make new friends and maybe even live in a place that is completely alien to you. You're not thinking so much about how much that CD set cost and whether or not you're likely to finish it (of course you will!).
So, what do potential seekers need to watch out for?
1) You need "directionally correct impulses." This means that what you're doing has to make sense - it has to cohere to your development as a person and for the better. If your girlfriend is Chinese, it makes more sense to learn Mandarin than Swahili. Are you learning a language for the hell of it, or because the time and effort invested will flesh out other aspects of your life (besides being able to discourse authoritatively upon Swahili verb formation at cocktail parties)?
2) You need to be wary of "low hanging fruit." It's such a buzz to start a new language. Every three days, your vocabulary doubles. Yesterday, you couldn't say "Hello," and now you can already tell people what color their car is and that you think it's very beautiful. Language junkies and potential seekers alike need to look at opportunity costs - how much are you missing out on by using your time for the easy-breezy fun stuff of a new language when you could be cementing the foundations in a language you've already studied? This is not to say you shouldn't study new languages, either for fun or with the long term goal of fluency. But if you're at the bookstore and you just put back
Intermediate Russian because it was so exciting skimming the first chapter of
Samoan for Beginners, it's not a bad idea to stop and examine your motives.
3) It's a good idea to explore what Tasler calls binary thinking. When you are a risk manager, you analyze, then act. If you are impulsive, you're likely to act before you analyze. In this case, you should analyze after, not skip analysis altogether. In other words, if you're feeling motivated now, by all means throw yourself into your studies and get as far as you can. But when the thrill lessens, take time to reflect on what worked and what didn't so you don't feel like you have to keep going at the same pace or give up.
There are also lessons for the risk manager:
1) Beware of subconscious fears: Few people are incapable of learning a new language. But a lot of people have trouble sticking with it through the frustrating parts. They're afraid they can't learn, and the fear dominates. Or they're afraid they won't be fluent enough and they'll be embarrassed. Most of all, they're afraid that they won't stick with it long enough so any time invested will turn out to have been a waste of time. It's the same logic we use to justify not looking for a new job, not asking someone out and all the other things where we look at an exciting new direction our lives might take and say,
naah.
2) Set targets. I've been writing about the language journal off and on. I encountered a slightly different version of this with the story of a golfer who came out ahead of Tiger Woods in a tough tournament. The key: He went to the course in advance, practiced a variety of scenarios and prepped himself to stay focused on the shots instead of the score. As a result, his mind was mainly on what to do next, not what Tiger had just done. That's not enough, of course, to beat Tiger every time. But it reduces the chance of choking by getting caught up in winning the tournament instead of making the next shot. With language learners, the plateaus can feel like an invitation to give up. By setting targets that keep you focused on small, achievable goals, you can steadily improve and ultimately prove competent if not fluent instead of getting hung up on how much you have to learn.
I've simplified and adapted, of course, and if you're interested in maximizing your decision making skills for language learning and life in general, Tasler's book - not my summary - is the way to go. But I hope these points will provide a little food for thought in figuring out what makes you tick - and what makes you quit - when it comes to learning languages, so that if you've struggled in the past you can make better choices and stick to them in the future.